We often think..."THEY MAKE ME SO MAD!"
But what we know is that OUR THOUGHTS LEAD TO OUR ANGER.
Don't panic-this is a tough concept because our anger so often feels out of our control. It is easy to be tricked into thinking that if THEY would just change, then WE wouldn't have to get so mad. This out of control feeling can lead to the breakdown of relationships, problems with abuse, high risk behavior and even lead to trouble with the law. Figuring this stuff out is easier than a life of strife, anger, and failed interactions.
So, what is the answer?
The first step is to rule out medical issues such as thyroid, hormone, or vitamin deficiencies. Secondly, we'll assess for depression. We typically think of depression as sadness, the blues, or shutting down, but depression frequently presents as anger or irritability, especially in teens. We'll talk about trauma, which frequently results in limited emotional capacity...which means we can't tolerate a lot of emotion. Finally, we'll talk about how you think about things. Many people are surprised to learn that it isn't the thing that makes us angry, but instead, how we think about the thing. The good news about this is that we get to control how we think, and take care of the business of life.