Families are systems. Each member plays a role in how well the system does or doesn't work. Often, people will come to therapy having identified "the patient." If I can just "fix Suzy" then the family will be fine...but we know that it takes two (or more) to tango! Family dynamics develop and are maintained by each person playing their role. When these roles become rigid, we can have big problems! We don't need all the players to promote healing. If you have been putting off therapy because of scheduling conflicts, or because you can't get your partner to commit, individual counseling provides a way for you to promote your own healing, and model better behavior for the family as a whole.