Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Jun 23, 20203 minOh! That Voice.Imagine a world where you believe, without question, every vile thing your worst enemy tells you. They have access to your deepest fears,...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Jun 16, 20203 minThe Self in Three StatesThe number three. Blood, sweat, tears. Life, Liberty, pursuit of happiness. Location, location, location.
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Aug 11, 20183 minShameYou are born. You are basically a blob. Don’t get me wrong-your parents probably think you are an adorable blob, but you are, nonetheless...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Mar 28, 20183 minWho am I now?Whether it is a retirement, divorce, marriage or recovery, while transitions come with great rewards they can also leave us with many...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Mar 21, 20183 minWho's driving this bus, anyway?Imagine that you are a bus driver. All your thoughts and ideas and inner voices are your passengers. Maybe they are future plans and...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Mar 21, 20174 minSee the cycle of abuse before you're in a spin.Unfortunately, a first date doesn't include the tradition of disclosing issues of being a perpetrator of violence in a relationship, or...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Mar 16, 20173 minThe Green Monster: JealousyIn my therapy practice I hear people acknowledge their feelings of romantic jealousy in a relationship, quickly followed by the...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Mar 9, 20174 minSo many questions in the aftermath.When we emerge from a personal disruption, we can waste a lot of time asking questions for which there are no answers. They seem to swim...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Mar 6, 20174 minStorm Clouds ClearingAs we regain equilibrium following a s#!t storm disruption, new patterns and habits emerge. We may feel frail, but experience periods of...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Feb 17, 20173 minStaying Calm in (What Feels Like) a S#!t Storm, Part II: The AwakeningAs we covered in Staying Calm in (what feels like) a s#!t Storm Part I: Resiliency, there are many times in our lives when we may feel...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Jan 25, 20173 minStaying Calm in (What Feels Like) a S#!t Storm, Part I: ResiliencyThere are many times in our lives when we may feel like the proverbial rug has been pulled out from under us. Maybe it is a financial...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Nov 10, 20163 minI Messed Up: How to Do BetterSometimes we goof. We flub. We royally screw up. It is bound to happen, we are human after all. It is what we do next that matters most....
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Nov 3, 20162 minWhen Counseling SucceedsWhen I was in grad school I heard a classic tale about counseling: A man is left in a cave with a challenge. He has enough provisions for...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Oct 27, 20163 minWhen Counseling FailsWhen I see a new client, one of first questions I ask is about their history with counseling. Sometimes the answer is heartbreaking. A...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Oct 20, 20162 minFrom Rescuer to CoachIn the role of rescuer, you may feel a strong desire to "help" by taking over for a person. And even though helping may feel like the...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Oct 13, 20162 minFrom Persecutor to ChallengerIt can be very difficult to think of ourselves as the persecutor in our little dance of dysfunction. I encourage you think carefully...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Oct 4, 20162 minFrom Victim to Thriver Imagine a better communication triangle. Through learning new moves, you can engage in a whole new dance whose triad is supported through...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Sep 30, 20162 minThe Endless Dysfunctional DanceThe dreaded drama triangle. Ever been in an endless fight? After you read this, you may never see the argument the same way again. This...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Sep 21, 20162 minDe-escalate? I'm ready to go through the roof!First: See last post for tips to "get control of yourself!" Then, prepare for the conversation you want to have. I will often suggest to...
Natalie Hartney, LPC NCC Sep 15, 20163 minHow to be the Most Powerful Person in the RoomI used to say that only an insecure person shows up to a water gun fight with a machine gun. I'll refine that a bit for our purposes...