Imagine a world where you believe, without question, every vile thing your worst enemy tells you. They have access to your deepest fears,...

The number three. Blood, sweat, tears. Life, Liberty, pursuit of happiness. Location, location, location.

You are born. You are basically a blob. Don’t get me wrong-your parents probably think you are an adorable blob, but you are, nonetheless...

Whether it is a retirement, divorce, marriage or recovery, while transitions come with great rewards they can also leave us with many...

Imagine that you are a bus driver. All your thoughts and ideas and inner voices are your passengers. Maybe they are future plans and...

Unfortunately, a first date doesn't include the tradition of disclosing issues of being a perpetrator of violence in a relationship, or...

In my therapy practice I hear people acknowledge their feelings of romantic jealousy in a relationship, quickly followed by the...

When we emerge from a personal disruption, we can waste a lot of time asking questions for which there are no answers. They seem to swim...

As we regain equilibrium following a s#!t storm disruption, new patterns and habits emerge. We may feel frail, but experience periods of...

As we covered in Staying Calm in (what feels like) a s#!t Storm Part I: Resiliency, there are many times in our lives when we may feel...

There are many times in our lives when we may feel like the proverbial rug has been pulled out from under us. Maybe it is a financial...

Sometimes we goof. We flub. We royally screw up. It is bound to happen, we are human after all. It is what we do next that matters most....

When I was in grad school I heard a classic tale about counseling: A man is left in a cave with a challenge. He has enough provisions for...

When I see a new client, one of first questions I ask is about their history with counseling. Sometimes the answer is heartbreaking. A...

In the role of rescuer, you may feel a strong desire to "help" by taking over for a person. And even though helping may feel like the...

It can be very difficult to think of ourselves as the persecutor in our little dance of dysfunction. I encourage you think carefully...

Imagine a better communication triangle. Through learning new moves, you can engage in a whole new dance whose triad is supported through...

The dreaded drama triangle. Ever been in an endless fight? After you read this, you may never see the argument the same way again. This...

First: See last post for tips to "get control of yourself!" Then, prepare for the conversation you want to have. I will often suggest to...

I used to say that only an insecure person shows up to a water gun fight with a machine gun. I'll refine that a bit for our purposes...